What is self-love for you? How much does it mean to you?
To me self-love is treating myself right, accepting myself as I am all my imperfections included, and it means the world to me as I’ve been through that stage where I forgot to love myself and end up doubting myself to the point where it felt like I was of no use.
Is it selfish to love oneself according to you? Because I’ve been called selfish recently when I choose my happiness and sanity over someone. Does that make me a narcissist? The debate of this is un-ending, but there is a thin line between loving yourself and becoming a narcissist.
While narcissist thinks the world revolve around them and feel the need or the power to control others in order to stay happy, self-love is simply a love for oneself, it doesn’t make you proud, boastful, or envious instead it makes you patient, more understanding of others and overall, a better person.
People often interprets self-love as selfishness which I think is a misconception on their part, self-love is simply self-acceptance, accepting your insecurities, your imperfections and treating yourself right. In life you can’t please everyone, there will be situations where its you or someone else who’s bound to be disappointed or hurt and those times choosing yourself isn’t a crime. Some people might call you selfish that time for putting your happiness above theirs and that accusation according to me is an attempt of manipulation, an emotional blackmail to guilt you for their happiness. Society isn’t of a great help either when they scrutinize your every movement not knowing what you might be going through and how hard it must have been for you.
Choosing to love yourself is not selfish but it is something we need to practice more as I think somewhere along the line we forget to do so while trying to please others. This often leads to having doubts on ourselves and also the root of most of our insecurities. I’d simply like to add be yourself and be true to who you are. Accept yourself with all your flaws, give yourself a chance and start treating yourself right.
I have a short poem for you as well on self-love, have fun reading.
Always love yourself but not to the point you turn to be a narcissist, respect and spread love to others along the way as well.
Happy readings 🙃
The introvert writer © 2021